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    1. Forum Questions and Answers

      Found a bug?  Feature not working as it should?  Have a question about how to use the forums, a resource on the site, or the chat rooms?  This is the place to get help.

       

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      A list of How To's for our Forums.

       

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  2. Issue-Specific Support Forums

    1. Suicide Prevention

      Most transgender people have attempted suicide at least once in their lives. If you have, please lend your support here to those who are having a bad time now. Suicide is never the answer. If you are suicidal, call the Trans Lifeline at (877) 565-8860 in the US or (877) 330-6366 in Canada. In the UK, call the Samaritans free on 116 123, or log in to our live chat room and ask to speak with a crisis moderator.

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    2. Alcohol Abuse Support Forum

      A support forum for those who have problems with alcohol.

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    3. Drug Abuse Support Forum

      A forum to get help and support if you have drug issues.

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    4. Sexual Abuse and Assault Support Forum

      If you have ever been the victim of sexual abuse, molestation, violent sexual assault, or other sexual violation, you will find help and support here.

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    5. Cutting and Self-Harm Support Forum

      Cutting and other forms of self-harm are an epidemic among transgender teens. This is a support and prevention forum to discuss issues related to these topics.

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    6. Eating Disorders Support Forum

      A forum to discuss and get support if you have - or think you have - an eating disorder such as anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, or compulsive over-eating.

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    7. Victims of Hate Crimes and Violence

      This is a forum to discuss hate and violent crimes against transgender people. It is also a place for victims to talk about what happened to them and gain help and support. Nearly 95% of crimes against us are never reported. If you are a victim, please report it here.

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  3. General Transgender Forums

    1. General Forum

      You may discuss any general topic here.  Religion and politics discussions must be held in their appropriate forums only.

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    2. Introductions Forum

      Welcome!  Tell us about yourself!

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    3. Military Veterans and Active-Duty Service Members

      A place for transgender military veterans and active-duty service members to discuss experiences, benefits, and laws that affect us.

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    4. Coming Out

      A place to discuss coming out to family, friends, and co-workers.

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    5. Research Studies

      From time to time, TransPulse approves academic research studies to solicit input from our community.  Information on these studies will be posted here.

       

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    6. Member Poetry

      You may post your transgender-related poetry here.  Any poetry posted must be your own and any copyright held must be held by you.  Copyright infringements will be removed as soon as a moderator becomes aware of it, without notice.

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  4. Transition Support Forums

    1. General Transition Issues

      This is an all-gender presentations forum. Issues discussed here can affect any member of the forum, such as the WPATH Standards of Care. 

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    2. Therapy and Therapists

      Forum to discuss therapy and its effects.

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    3. What Am I? I'm Not Sure.

      New to the site?  Not sure of your identity?  You are not alone.  This is a forum without judgment.  Ask your questions without fear.

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    4. Androgyne and Multigender Forums

      Androgyny is marked by characteristics of both genders resulting in a non-gendered or gender-neutral appearance.

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    5. Crossdresser Discussions

      A discussion group for crossdressers.

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    6. Female to Male (FtM) Discussions

      A place to discuss topics related to transitioning from female to male.

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    7. Male to Female (MtF) Discussions

      A place to discuss issues related to transitioning from male to female.

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    8. Intersex Discussions

      An intersex individual is a person (or individual of any unisex species) who is born with genitalia and/or secondary sexual characteristics of indeterminate sex, or which combine features of both sexes.

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    10. Passing As Your Target Gender

      A discussion forum about passing as your true gender.

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    11. Hormone Replacement Therapy

      A place to discuss hormone replacement therapy and its effects.

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    12. Transition Product Info

      This forum is for information about and reviews of products you use in order to feel more authentic during your transition.  Packers, breast forms, whatever it may be - share your experiences here.  Remember, we do not allow advertisements or sales pitches.

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    13. Real Life Test Discussions

      A place to discuss transition: legal, workplace, name change, driver's license issues, and more. Tips and tricks on getting through a year or two as another gender.

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    14. Transgender Surgeries

      The place to talk about gender affirming surgeries you've had or are planning to have, get physician recommendations, and more.

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    15. Post-Op Discussions

      A place to discuss specific issues or general living after undergoing sex reassignment surgery.

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    16. Transgender Issues

      A forum for discussion of general transgender issues.

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    17. WPATH Standards of Care

      A place to discuss the existing standards of care and how they apply to us.

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    18. Health Issues

      This forum is a place to discuss the various aches, pains, and other complaints we all have.  Please avoid playing doctor or applying your diagnosis or treatment to other members' situations - only a visit to a qualified health care professional can determine the right course of treatment.

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    19. Diet and Exercise

      Many people understand that it is difficult to lose weight after starting hormones.  This a forum to discuss diet and exercise during and after medical transition.

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    20. Fashion

      A place to discuss fashion for all members, including clothing questions, sizing, and more.

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    21. Beauty

      Discuss beauty and cosmetics tips and tricks here.

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    22. Transgender, Transsexual, Crossdresser Teens Forum

      This is the place for any Transgender Teen to post. Topics may be posted only by member aged 13-24, however any member may reply to offer Support. No exchanging personal info, real names, addresses, email or phone numbers.

       

      To post a new message in this forum you must be aged 13 to 24, or a moderator, ages may change later. Any member though may post a PUBLIC reply and we encourage them to give you the benefit of their experience. Sexual issues may not be discussed in this forum.

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  5. Career and Workplace Issues

    1. Job Search

      Searching for work is one of the biggest challenges faced by the transgender community.  Here you can ask for advice on the process.

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    2. Academia

      If you're a student or if you work in the education field, this is the forum to discuss issues surrounding your work.

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    3. Corporate and Office Environments

      This forum is a catch-all for the nine-to-fivers, whether you're an administrative assistant, an executive, or anywhere in between.

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    4. Health Care and Social Services

      If you work in health care, social services, hospice, or another related industry, your workplace questions can be addressed here.

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    5. Law Enforcement and Emergency Response

      Law enforcement and corrections officers, firefighters, EMS employees, dispatchers, and others who work in emergency response can use this forum to discuss their workplace issues.

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    6. Service and Hospitality Industries

      Retail, food service, restaurant, hotel, and other service industry employees can find help with their workplace issues here.

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    7. Other Fields

      If your career field doesn't have a specific category above, you can get advice on workplace issues here.

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  6. News, Activism, Politics, and Events

    1. News

      This is the place to discuss news topics that affect our community. Discussions related to politics and activism should be posted here as well. This is also the place to list upcoming conferences and other gatherings.

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    2. Uplifting News

      A place for news and events that lift the spirits.

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    3. Politics

      Discussion forum for political topics, both general and specific to the transgender community.

      This is a forum that is non-biased/non-partisan and treats every persons position on topics equally. This forum is not aligned to any political party. In today's politics, many ideas are split between and even within all the political parties. Often we find ourselves agreeing on one platform but some topics break our mold. We are here to discuss them in a civil political debate.

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    4. Transgender Activism

      Transgender activism and protests.

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    5. Events, Conferences, and Gatherings

      Events and conferences of interest to the trans community.

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  7. Spirituality

    1. Buddhism

      Buddhism.

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    2. Christianity

      Christianity, all sects.

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      Mormonism.
       

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    4. Hinduism

      Hinduism.

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    5. Islam

      Islam.

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    6. Judaism

      Judaism.

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    7. Two-Spirit

      Two-Spirit faiths, both Native American and other.

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    8. Wicca

      Wicca.

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    9. Other Faiths

      Other religions and spiritual beliefs.
       

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    10. Non-Deistic Spirituality

      Non-deistic spirituality.

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  8. Entertainment

    1. Movies

      Discuss and review movies.  Nothing beyond an "R" rating.

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    2. Television

      What do you - or don't you - like on TV, cable, and streaming services?

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    3. Theatre

      What do you - or don't you - like in or about the Theatre? Are you involved with your local AmDram or a professional Actor?

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    4. Jokes and Humor

      Jokes and humor. Keep it clean. No ethnic or other derogatory jokes. What makes you laugh?

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    5. Games and Gaming

      Board games, card games, video games - you name it.  What do you play?

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    6. Books

      Books and book reviews, favorite authors, favorite genres, and more.

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    7. Stories Written by You

      If you have written a story, or have ideas for a story, that you would like to share with others, then this is the place for them.

      Please remember that they must be PG13 or under.

      If you use other's characters, then a disclaimer MUST be added to the start of the story, something along the lines "I do not claim <character name(s)> as my characters, I'm just borrowing them and receive no income from doing so. All copyrights are freely acknowledged and respected."

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    8. Videos

      A place for your YouTube and other video links.  PG13 or below.  No underwear shots.  People must be fully clothed.  Instructional videos related to the trans community should also be posted here.

      Note that profanity in such videos is not allowed, we wish to remain a clean site, viewable by all. Whilst we accept that once a video has played, many other videos are shown over which you have no control over the content of these.

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    9. Music

      What sort of music do you - or don't you - enjoy?

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    10. Artwork

      This is for your artwork, not someone else's copyrighted art.  Because of bandwidth limits, you should use the insert image option and link to the image on your Photobucket, Imgur, or other storage account, or your own web space.  Images uploaded to the forum will be deleted.  Images must be site friendly / age-suitable or they will be deleted.

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    11. Gadgets and Tech

      This is a place to discuss the ever-changing landscape of technology.

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      @Jamma, I'm so sorry. Your co-workers' behavior has crossed the line from inappropriate to cruel. I would hope that their supervisor would have something serious to say about all of it. I can't quite understand how the organization is allowing this to happen.   It's completely understandable that this would be upsetting to you, because it truly is horrible that people would even want to do this. It feels like something 13-year-olds might do - and would be punished for doing it. I would unquestionably be upset if this happened to me, and I would remind management that it's illegal.   But, please, PLEASE don't let them erode your sense of self. Don't give that power to them. This is *entirely* about who THEY are, not about who you are. They can't tell you how you look or how you feel. They obviously wouldn't have the first clue, because they don't know even how to conduct themselves.   I *really* encourage you to talk to management or HR. I'm all for lightheartedness in the workplace, but this is openly hostile and should be reported. You can do that in a very calm way.   But if there's one thing I want you to know above all others, it's that this is in no way about you. There is nothing about you that warrants this treatment.
    • Toli
      I'm so sorry that this is the case, @Max THis is hard stuff.    I don't know whether there are debt relief / support plans and agencies out there?    I will see what I can find out. (I will not do anything weird - I'm too old and technology challenged, but I am handy with google)
    • Toli
      Oh @Jamma, lovely, PLEASE do something about this. This is wrong, and almost certainly illegal, in several ways.    This is *allowed* to bother you. it's horrible to do this to you.    It's ALSO (on top of everything else) A hostile work environment. Whether or not you are a trans person.    It's OK to have ALL the feelings you are having.    But, don't throw away the things that you like, and that bring you happiness. Not worrying about what you call yourself or those things, but, try to hold on to the happy stuff, so that it can help you, when you feel safer again, to get back to the exploring. Exploring is GOOD. You don't need a destination yet. 
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      (The picture is the actual framed picture they put up....) there are more  Okay..... So a small warning this is going be a particularly negative post... So it happened a lot sooner than I was expecting and im a little confused by how it makes me feel.   So the guys at work took the joke to a whole new level. I rarely let stuff bother me (learnt not to from being bullied) so to say I have a thick skin is an under statement.   Anyway. They decided to use chat GPT and find a picture of me from my 10 year old linked in profile I forgot i had.... to create a few awful videos I wont share and a FRAMED PICTURE that is now on display at work that i will show at the bottom..   Now with that context.   I am not currently considering myself trans as i am still exploring. But this has made me not want to be.. which is awful. Like the amount of shame and negativity I feel when looking at this photo theyve made actually hurts. If thats what I look like, I dont want it. It makes me just want to curl up and disappeare for a while....   Like I know this is borderline or perhaps even not borderline a hate crime and that isnt even what's bothering me. Its the way this "joke" has made me feel about myself when they dont even know what im currently going through and are taking advantage of me being a relaxed kinda personality.    Im not one to take things further and tbh i kinda hate confrontation. I havent let them know it bothers me but the fact that IT DOES bother me, actually bothers me more...   Either way I feel like crap..
    • Jessica Louise
      my biggest downers when looking in a mirror while dressed are my receding hair line, my gut the hair on my arms ( i would shave them but people would notice and ask questions im not ready for)    
    • Max
      not really. my family is starting to drown in debt and we're focusing on getting my moms car paid for, my mom paying back my grandpa for his help, and my grandpa using that money to pay off his debit card.
    • Jessica Louise
      im only 5ft 10 but i feel you with the wide shoulders and chest
    • Jamma
      Yes ive tried these and they seem to help make the outfits feel and look better ! Ive never considered thr hip ones    Yes honestly. I am a large man. Wide shoulders, wide chest, very big legs from carrying around so much weight. Tall.  Its basically impossible to feel feminine 😂   I get a lot of negative feelings looking in the mirror because I dislike the way I look but like the clothes. Its tricky for sure 😂
    • Marai
      @Jamma We may have to compare notes. I’m the same height and waist as you. 😄 I am not as far along in the transition process, but I have been checking out tall women’s clothing sites to see what could be feasible. I think for dresses, some HRT would be needed to redistribute the body fat and develop the bust line enough to really make them fit nicely. My problem is that my shoulders are so wide that I have issues with men’s clothing fitting properly, much less women’s wear. Guess I’ll have to follow the WNBA to see what they are wearing. I’m really beginning to envy the not-so-tall and slightly built men who have a much easier time with feminine clothing.
    • Jessica Louise
      Since my egg cracked at the age of 34 i have been constantly asking myself what if   what if i was born a girl? what would my life have been?    as a child i never had any female friends and just hung around other boys i feel in the 90's and early 2000's boys and girls didnt hang out together much or maybe its just me   is it common to feel like i missed the chance to experience my childhood as a girl? i feel like i missed things like sleepovers, learning to use makeup, going clothes shoppingand all of the other female bonding activities    im 38 now and i worry that its too late to have these experiences 
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      hi Jamma   have you looked into body shaping? having hip pads and breastforms helped me to feel less like "a man in a dress" and more like a woman 
    • Jessica Louise
      all of the previous post are like looking in a mirror. i struggle a lot with lowering my internal defences i constantly push people away in fear i may let something about my gender struggles slip. i question whether im really trans or just deluding myself and thinking am i trans enough to transition if i decide to. could i even commit to such a huge life change  
    • StephanieJ
      I completely understand, my work keep wanting me in staff pictures for their Facebook page, but I’m not there yet. I hope you are settling in nicely here and can continue to grow 🫶
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      thank you Marai it feels so good to be able to open up.  
    • Marai
      @Jessica Louise I’m so glad you joined us. For many of us it’s the first place where we could truly express who we are and what we are feeling. And I can see myself in you and some of what you are experiencing. Sometimes it hits home. Thank you for sharing. Hugs, Marai
    • Willow
      Good morning   @KymmieL I know where you are coming from.  A couple of weeks ago I was as close as I’ve ever been to suicide. I even told my wife after I came down.  Only difference I see hear is I specifically used the word suicide.  My Dr. is adding another mood adjusting medication to my SRI med. She first suggested something I’d already tried when I was under the care of a Psychiatrist that actually made things worse and I told her about that, so she switched to a different class of add-on.   things are better now although I don’t have the new med yet, I just met with my doctor yesterday.  my wife has adjusted her attitude.  And I admit that I am stressing out over things that include her attitude as well as our finances.  I know the finances will get better but not necessarily quickly.   subject change anybody watch the USA vs Bosnia-Hertz Covina Soccer match last night?  I’m not into Soccer / Football but that was some game.   Especially when the US scored short handed.  That was the only FIFA game I’ve watched. But, I actually enjoyed it.    
    • Toli
      Don't apologise! Of course you are allowed to vent here!    I send you a *hug*    Gender is a wierd and ridiculous thing. What does it even mean? What even *is* a categorically masculine or feminine trait? I can't think of one.    Although, I cannot paint my nails or do makeup properly. Just not a thing I can do. Luckily I don't need to.    The secrecy must be exhausting, and I am sorry for that.    *I* genuinely believe you are valid, and you ARE allowed to be you, and that is a beautiful and valuable and right thing.    And honestly, what is it that other people are objecting to? Other people's experience of YOUR gender can only really ever be external, so, now, these are adult humans complaining about a person being allowed to choose their own clothes and hairstyle? Appearance means *that* much?! Ridiculous.   And I *know* that there are genuine safety issues (and, I always have a 'you're safe with me' badge on me, just in case, I am out and about. ANYONE can ask me to be company to go to the toilet - I mean, I use which ever one is most available as long as it feels safe, a middle aged gentleman allowed me to use the mens room before him the other week, even though it is pretty obvious..., or approach me if they are feeling unsafe alone.) But, I want someone to have told you, you can be real and yourself, and that MEANS something.     
    • Pema
      There are so many. I'll start with "What is the source of consciousness?"
    • Jessica Louise
      my bed is comfy and the world right now is cruel and unrelenting especially for those like us we are told to be ourselves but we must conform to societies view of gender were told to be unique in a cookie cutter way we are told that if you are trans your valid but whne we are attacked and murdered they say its our fault    i just want to be me and the fear that my family and friends are so set in thier ways that if i become some one they dont reconiese even if im happier and more productive then  im wrong i started growing my hair out after my brothers wedding and all anyne says is when are you getting it shaved off   im starting to find joy dressing feminenly when i try make up i feel a buzz painting my nails feels right i want to go out side as jessica im tired of having to keep it a big secret for the sake of others but im also terrified of losing every thing i have becouse others wont accept it   im sorry Toli im venting here finding this site and guys like you mean i can share what im bottling up
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