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Thanks for all your comments.  It's been a big week,  I'm absolutely loving being able to be me in my work. All my colleagues are brilliant and so supportive,  we share a joke or 2,and  have a laugh, but it's always respectful.  The hardest part for most of them is to remember to call me by my preferred name,  snd they always apologise when they get it wrong, lol 😆  I don't think any of my customers realise I'm trans by the way they address me? I find it heartwarming.  I delivered to one old lady, living in sheltered accommodation,  when she let me in the main building,  she was waiting at her door and said,  oh, that's makes a change, getting a lady driver? I had to take her shopping in and unpack it for her, she was asking,  how long have I been doing the job, as she hasn'tseenme before? I just said, I've been doing it for while,  but I've transferred from a different store,  that way it throws suspicion to how I'm doing my job with ease and competence? She wished me well and said she hoped to get me again. I left absolutely buzzing,  I felt it was a little victory for me? I delivered to a lady with a young child, as she was emptying the baskets of shopping,  she was giving the empy crates to the little girl and said, give that back to the lady. It felt really good,  and i let off a silent "yes" when walking back to my van, lol☺️ one of my colleagues,  I thought I might have a problem with, has been really good with me, I know, he is a bit homophobic and in the past has had and said homophobic comments? Before working in our store,  he only ever worked in an all male environment,  he worked in the building trade. After our meeting on Monday, he pulled called me over and said,  he doesn't have a problem with me, he said since working for us  he has changed his views a lot, there is a lit of gay colleagues working for us  and he has learnt to except? I told him I wasn't gay   I just feel im in the wrong body,  I'm still me, I still have the same sense of humour,  the same faults,  the same problems,  I just dress and look a bit different? Later on in the week he pulled ne up and said, I was thinking zboug what you said   and you are right and he just sees me as a normal person now, he said before ge worked for us, if he gad seen me  he would gave had a problem and eould gave been threatening and abusive towards me? So that was a big compliment coming from him and we have a good working relationship. He even asked how I was getting on with customers   have I encountered any problems? I said I haven’t yet, he said if you get any problems to come to them, meaning him and the other colleagues,  and they will alway gave my back? It is heartwarming and restored my faith in people a bit, regardless of this stupid law, I'm finding people are a  lot more tolerant and accepting than the media are making it? I'll keep you all updated on my progress, Speak again  hugs and kisses,  Joanne 🥰

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/apr/27/older-trans-women-shocked-by-supreme-court-ruling?CMP=share_btn_url   There are a whole lot of us older folks on this site, and I think most of us can empathize with the folks profiled in this article.  Few of us have had our personal situations seriously threatened; what scares us is the uncertainty and feeling that there is a target on our backs.  Worry is a constant companion these days, and that's not how we imagined it would be.   Carolyn Marie

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Marceline.  It's nice to meet you.  I hope that you take some time to explore the various forums and contribute some questions or comments.  It makes it easier to meet our fine members and we, in turn, can get to know you.  I look forward to hearing more from you.   HUGS   Carolyn Marie

What a weekend.  I managed to get some time away from home Friday night, just hanging out with my friends.  I spend a lot of time watching the kids, since my GF is still gone.  Two of my partners are pregnant...at the same time.  They're in 3rd trimester now, which means more of their chores are becoming mine to handle.     Its interesting how pregnancy changes a woman's life.  I remember when GF was pregnant, she was mostly unaffected during the first 7 months.  During the last 4 to 6 weeks, she would mostly hibernate, being awake as little as 4 hours a day.  My other partners aren't quite as extreme as that, but I expect I'll be in charge of domestic life pretty soon.    Meanwhile, my husband is busy with new responsibilities.  He inherited a house in the nearby city recently, but was unable to sell it or do much with it because it is in a neighborhood with a Homeowner's Association.  Apparently before she left, GF engineered a kind of coup.  There was a vote of No Confidence in the president and two other directors of the HOA.  They were removed, and my husband was elected to one of the empty spots.  Even though he doesn't live there.    I guess two of my stepkids are moving out this summer.  My eldest stepson has been working for my husband since he graduated high school.  He's been my husband's secretary at work, and his aide/driver for county stuff.  He's going to attend tech school later this year, on scholarship from my husband's company.  His younger sister graduates next month, and she's going to take over her brother's duties.  The two of them are going to live together in the house in the city, "renting" it from my husband.  They've agreed to be responsible for bills and property tax there.   We're nowhere close to having an empty nest, but the first two kids preparing to leave is bittersweet.  I've watched them grow up over the last few years.  I'm young enough I don't see myself as a real parent to teenagers, but I'm definitely going to feel it when they move out

I've been saying a variant of this for years.  No more stalls, only individual omni-gender locking bathrooms.  Better for everybody.  It doesn't cost much more, and solves a whole world of problems.  Not to mention making things better for ALL women (ever notice how men's rooms never have a line, while women's rooms are often full? Because they build them the same size....)   One way to argue for it is to use homophobia.  Because people who want group single-gender bathrooms forget about gay people - Insecure men have to use the same bathroom as gay men!   So anybody who's worried about something happening in the bathroom should stay awake at night for many hours thinking that one over. 

I keep my expectations realistic.  Some things are easily possible.  Some things may be possible with intense effort.  Some things are impossible.  Best to know the difference, so as not to be disappointed. 

Marceline, and unusual but very beautiful name.  Welcome to Transgender Pulse. Here you will find support, advice, Jokes, and best of all Friends who have gone and/or are going through exactly what you are now. I, myself have to live a double life as my wife and oldest are against me going any farther with transition.   Feel free to read and jump in on any post you find interesting. Come and join us coffeeholics in the "Good Morning Coffees on" Thread. Were we talk about anything and everything. ( as long as it follows the rules LOL)   Kymmie

Yup.  Things are going backwards now.  It's sad.

Hello! My name is Marceline, I'm 23 years old and I'm pretty sure I'm trans. Marceline is the name I've chosen for myself and it already makes me happier than the name I get called every day. I think that counts for something. There are a variety of reasons I'm unable to come out in my everyday life, but I'm hopeful that this forum will at least give an outlet so I don't feel like crawling out of my skin every five minutes. Think of it as a sort of a pressure valve for me. After a cursory glace at a few of the posts and topics here I already think I made a good decision. Previously I had a Reddit account where I really shared, in the end that ultimately outed me. That was a painful and embarrassing experience which ended up permanently damaging important relationships for me.  I know what I'm doing now is just as dishonest but I'm not in a position where I can blow everything up. Of course I'd adore a new wardrobe, the opportunity to actually learn how to do my makeup, to start HRT, to breathe for once in my life. It occurred to me the other day that I never really look in the mirror if I can help it. It feels like I'm wearing this costume I can't take off, like I'm playing a character of what I think a man is the moment I wake up. It's exhausting. Then somedays it doesn't feel as exhausting and I think that maybe I'm making it up, or that I'm sick, or that it's some kind of idle obsession that doesn't reflect the way I feel. So part of me coming here is also seeking validation, I'm not ashamed to admit that. I need to hear it from another trans person that I'm not going insane, that this is rational. I want to be recognized and called the name I love.    This is new to me but also familiar. I've been down this road before. I know I will find comfort and comradery through the people who make this forum a safe haven for trans people of all kinds. There is a lot more to me but I feel like this a fair introduction to what I've been thinking for the last few months. It's a pleasure to be here and I can't wait to meet all of the lovely people here.   -Marceline    

I know. If only this was really only about architecture.    I went to the Padres "Night Out at the Park" - their Pride theme night. I was so surprised to see a gender neutral rest room with a lot of stalls and people peacefully and safely using it.    I looked for it again the next time I went to a game.    They changed the sign to make it back into a ladies only room.    sigh.    -Timi

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The simple solution, especially when buidings are built or remodelled, is to make all public bathrooms gender-neutral.  All stalls should have floor-to-ceiling walls, and doors with no gaps.  Put the urinals in stalls, too, or in a separate area.     It's not rocket science.  We have the technology.  They just don't want to do it, because it would remove one mechanism for controlling women.

I guess I keep my expectations low.

If there are "trans bathrooms"…….   Can cis people use them? (if there are long lines)  Do trans men and trans women use the same ones?  So now we need 4 sets of potties?  Oh, maybe 5 - got to consider the NB folks as well.   At the coffeehouse I go to there is only one for everybody, and so far it's been working out fine for everyone.

https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/clyw9qjeq8po   ..."in some circumstances the law also allows trans women (biological men) not to be permitted to use the men's facilities, and trans men (biological women) not to be permitted to use the women's facilities".   Some of this puts trans people in impossible situations, and makes no sense.  So trans women can be barred from women's spaces and men's spaces.  So businesses and schools and public places should create "trans spaces?"  Beware unintended consequences!   Carolyn Marie

I used to think i was mad up at six every morning except Sunday!! I believe footballers train in some forms of classical ballet. The old Legat School has long since gone, it was a large old seminary, complete with church, swimming pool, tennis courts when you went to Legat it was because you were gifted as a child as fees were astronomical. The estate now lies empty and over grown

It has long been a fantasy of mine to have the present "Older Me" go back in time and visit the "Younger Me", and tell that kid a few things!  Young Me would be absolutely shocked and amazed hearing about the things I would actually achieve in my lifetime--things that would have seemed impossible to me from my limited perspective.      And you don't even have to go back that far.  Even 5 years ago, what I'm describing would seem utterly absurd and incomprehensible.  And yet it has happened.    I have been transitioning with feminizing hormones for about 3 years now, and my body has changed drastically.  On a whim I bought this leopard one-piece at Walmart, because I felt I now had the "womanly curves" to make it work.  I took pics, posted them on Reddit, and to my surprise got 120+ upvotes (which I thought was pretty good) and I received many compliments!     This can really mess with your head.  The idea that I, a 59-year-old assigned male at birth could have a body like this that some described as "feminine", "sexy" and "hot"--like a "bathing beauty"--just blows me away!  I'm trying to be modest, and others look better than me, but most people approaching 60 don't tend to look that attractive in a bathing suit.  And I'm sure I would have been one of them!   Given the choice between being a mundane, middle-age male or an exotic, sexy female in a bathing suit, I wholeheartedly choose the latter.  Someone I'm familiar with on another forum who went through a similar transition at the age of 58 created these memes posted below.  They show the shock of discovering the "Future You" is in fact a hot female!  And no doubt the HRT has improved my health in many ways--some people call it a "fountain of youth"!   I felt a little funny about posting this, but I wanted to share my personal experience with you.  I'm curious what people think and whether any of you can relate to my rather unique turn of events!          

Life is what you make it, nobody will do things, it is up to each individual to find their own way in life. Parents bring us all up with their emotional and lifes challenges, the world is not perfect by any means. Transition can and does bring a whole different set of issues or problems, such as but by no means the least, a job,  hair removal, voice therapy, and probably a great deal more a good Gender therapist can help untangle  your mind and explore what is right for you, and that is most important, what is right for you. god bless