This isn't about playing dress-up. It's a way to begin to find ourselves, to quell the beast of dysphoria that dives us to depression. To begin to access those deeper feeling and emotions that have been closed off.   Do you really not understand how hurtful your words can be to some? Or is that your intent?

Most of us are more complicated than we realize.

We or rather i did not change who i am, i am still very much the same, i have always given off signals of being fem, its a trait !!! When i was at school, my school report said that i was a rather effeminate little boy, it is what we give off and what is reflected back. I once argued with the gender clinic that putting a white coat on does not make me a doctor, it is something far far deeper. If putting on clothes helps and is your way of coping then as you have rightly pointed out it is what works for you.

I write transgender stories. In hopes that I make someone smile with them.

Hols,  Please do not hesitate to reach out if you bare having an issue with substances.  I unfortunately had given up and only found a path out with the help and support of others.  I only have today and may make it if i remember not to take that first drink.  Tonight i', looking forward to meeting with other trans folks who are likewise recovering or wanting to stop abusing substances.   Hugs,   Charlize

Many of us don't have the ability to rapidly or totally transition for many different reasons. And, many of us have been trapped in the "social constraints" of being a male for decades. Each of us is different, unique.   For many of us, finding ways to feel the feminine aspects of our being, to understand what they are and how they can impact our psyche isn't just about becoming. For some of us it is the path to survival, first, and then, later, to understanding and happiness. It isn't about what society thinks we should be, it's about who we want to or need to become.    And, when we can't just stop where we are now and change, we find ways to gain and hold on to our feminine reality. It's how we can deal with the dysphoria and learn to love ourselves while we gain the belief in who we are.

Went through down day feeling yesterday.

My gosh that place is beautiful I love where you live. This looks like a castle and so upscale. Then you go inside and it give you that humble feeling of just a wonderful place of good eats, drinks and atmosphere. It’s a yucky gay here all overcast and rain here on planet NH.. I can tell the cortisone shots aren’t working as well because the rain is causing excess pain in my back and lower hips it seems as I have to call my orthopedic. Have a beautiful day y’all.    Peace, Hugs and Happiness, Silo

Feeling so much grief over how long it took and how I repressed myself to survive while waiting.