Well today is back to normal, overcast slightly cooler the usual routine when we get up, feed Mia, a couple more pictures from yesterdays lovely but long walk.  

Welcome, Andea! You have found a community where you are accepted and valued. Many of us have/still are pacing their transition in order to give SOs a chance to adjust and accept. I made that very same decision a little over two years ago when I came out to my wife. I hope your wife is able to make the adjustment.   Pacing is also, for many, a good approach as well. It gives you time to plan your steps, to experiment a bit with style, with make-up and other things while also working through the physical aspects of transition if you're considering them.   Have you considered working with a gender therapist? Many of us have found that to be a crucial aspect of our transition experience. A therapist will help you explore your identity and also help you determine your path ahead. Therapy can also help define ways that might ease your wife's acceptance.   Adding small feminine touches to your ever day wardrobe can also ease some of the dysphoria. Like you, I began growing out my hair almost immediately. I also switched to women's hi cut panties and a light fabric bra that was easily hidden under shirts. I also switched to wearing women's jeans and, after a few months, had my ears pierced.   I'm sure others will jump in with suggestions, too. In the mean time, feel free to wander the forums. You'll find lots of information and suggestions there. Ask questions and jump into conversations where you feel comfortable.   You are in a safe space.

the message continued, with "are you a girl or boy", being short in height and high pitched voice didn't help, it was great for following the stylistics and frankie valli not to mention the bee gees.!!!! Back to Ballet, the girls would tease me into going on point, it wasn't a pleasant experience and my feet hurt like hell.  Finding out i was naturally loose, was another mixed message as i ended up paired with another girl that was also naturally loose called Sue, we were both used as demonstrations in difficult exercises because, we didn't have to warm up as much, we did alot of partnered exercise where rubber bands went round our ankles and we would drop into side splits, the trouble was how could we get even fitter since we didn't feel any pain? when in side splits teachers would place their foot at the base of my spine and the same with Sue, and gently nudge us forward i would end up over Sues right thigh and she would end up over my left, ouch that hurt!!! A bit about Legat here for those that might be interested in Ballet Schools or what they are https://legat-russian-ballet.blogspot.com/2014/06/the-legat-reunion-and-legat-foundation.html  Becoming more body aware my inner torment, why wasnt my body developing right? pre hormones and just wanting to die, i just couldn't make sense of it all, I wanted out.

I am stuck with these for a whole month, I suppose i will get used to them, in my face it feels like i am blowing up a balloon, thats the trouble with equivalent patches!! I just hope that the balloon doesn't pop and i end up with my face on the floor (ROFL) the things we endure!!!

Yeah, my family structure is different.  My husband has 4 wives plus me.  My relationship with GF predates joining the big family.  She married my husband in 2018, and my relationship with him started after that.  I was in lesbian girl-form at the beginning, and GF has been intermittently OK and less-than-thrilled with my boy form.    My transition has been minimal. Some wardrobe change, shorter hairstyle, and a couple of other things.  It shouldn't be a big deal to her either way, but I'm not entirely free to make my own choices. 

Sooner or later the Supreme Court is going to have to address some trans-related cases, stop being a bunch of chickens and actually make some rulings.  For better or worse, it would at least stop the guessing, backtracking, and chaos. 

https://www.politico.com/news/2025/04/24/transgender-troops-military-care-00306827   And the "winning" for the Trump admin continues! (Yes, I'm being facetious).     Carolyn Marie

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/supreme-court/trump-administration-supreme-court-allow-transgender-military-ban-rcna202814     Carolyn Marie

Hi everyone!   I'm Andéa. I only allowed myself to accept who I truly am this January. I'm in my late 30s, MTF, and it feels like I'm starting life over again.    There's a large number of difficulties that I'm facing with this, the biggest one is that I'm married to a cisgender hetero woman who is not exactly on board. She's accepting of this as a fact, however she is struggling with me actually wanting to transition. It's only been a few months since I came out to her. I came out almost immediately after figuring this out and accepting it my own self, but I of course have had 30+ years to sit with this and accept it, and she's only had 3ish months.    As of right now I haven't done much in the way of transition just due to not wanting to drive my partner away, but some things I have explored is some more feminine clothing, I'm growing my hair out, and have started painting my nails. Not much, I know, and if I wasn't trying to keep my partner in my life in a romantic sense I'd already be well into the process of, or have already had obtained HRT. All in due time. I want to dive head first into this, but I've got a swimming partner that needs to be able to tread water first at least.   I haven't found much of a community where I live, and I really want to connect with people in the LGBTQ community now that I've accepted that I am part of it, so I was super happy to have found this space!    I'm a bit shy, but I'm trying to come out of my shell a little bit more, so if I'm socially awkward I ask forgiveness.   Not sure what else to write here, so a bit more about me.   I'm a huge nerd and a gamer. I play on PC and play stuff like Warframe, Monster Hunter, and am experimenting with Final Fantasy 14 to see if it's my jam or not.   I love music, and have a wide range of styles I like. All the way from Lady Gaga to Scandinavian Death Metal to Japanese Hipster Pop (still not sure how to classify some of the stuff I've found).   Also, if you want to type out the e with the little hat and you're on Windows, it's ALT+0233 :)

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If we're talking good news and wins, how about WA State legislature allowing for 12-month prescriptions of all non-controlled hormones (estradiol, progesterone, puberty blockers, etc.)!   https://app.leg.wa.gov/billsummary/?BillNumber=1971&Year=2025&Initiative=false   Sadly there are downsides: testosterone is a controlled substance, but must be covered in its maximal prescription length (presently 90 days); and it won't be enacted until 1/1/2026.   Still, a win is a win!

Wonderful! Sending love and support from this side of the Pond!

I completely missed this thread, @Joanne Grace but I am so happy to have found it today! It's so wonderful you've been supported at work, it's heartening especially with the news du jour over there. Absolutely love it!

Congratulations, Kymmie!

proud of you!!!

Congratulations Joanne. You go girl

Thank you all for your response. I did come out today. On Facebook of all places 🙄 The overwhelming response was one of support. No one seemed surprised. I wanted to come out on birthday, don't know why. It just seemed fitting.  Next week will be the challenge as I am on holiday this week. Most of my colleagues know but some aren't on Facebook so. I don't know if they know. Plus it means facing the public (I work in retail. But if people don't like it they can do one. I am me and that is all that metters!

Thank you @Sally Stone!

@Charlize is it on NETFLIX?