Yes, it does sound like a very good book, a very touching and timely story.  But I don't think I'll read it.  It is painful enough to live in the now, and face some of the evils that this administration has wrought.  I'm not much interested in reading about the same sort of thing happening to imaginary characters living in the 1940's.   Carolyn Marie

You mean depression?

The treatment of Trans people who very much existed in the pre - WWII years did not really improve with the end of the war.  I have not read this book, but have read and studied others about the people involved.  The story is sobering and even saddening, but one that needs to be told.  Our fears are historic, but so is our dream to simply be people among people doing people things in life including love.

Yes, my first thought was, "That means that..."  But like you, I'll try to concentrate on the positive.

This looks like a good book!   https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/books/story/2025-04-29/lilac-people-book-review-milo-todd    

Good morning    It is our 53rd anniversary today.  There have been good times and bad, love and hate but we worked things out and here we are 53 years later and still together.  There have been a few times I thought we were done.  Once I was ready to call it, once she was and one time I was even making contingency plains certain it was on the horizon but all that is in the past now.   We are even going shopping today to see if we can find nice outfits to celebrate our anniversary.  Ok it’s a far cry from going on a cruise or a trip somewhere but I don’t think she could handle that even if we could afford it.  She has really aged in the past year.  And honestly, so have I. In her case it is physically with some short term memory loss.  In my case it is strictly memory loss.  Sometimes I really have to think about things that just came snap snap snap to me before.  I do things to exercise my mind but they aren’t always helping.  I know it does no good to say “I told you… “ to my wife.  If she doesn’t remember right then and there it never happened.     So to all you younger coffee drinkers, stay healthy, stay happy and stay active as long as you can.  Couch potatoing is bad.  TV is ok in limitation but nothing beats going for a bicycle ride or walking, jogging or running if you can.  I am not and never was an athlete.  In fact a medical DNA test showed that I was in the lower 25% on that, som-armed to other men and boys.  Yet another confirming thing that points to my being transgender.  I used my brain instead.   but this is getting long and becoming dribble so I’ll stop.  Just stay active mentally and physically.            

I'll try to see that as positive rather than concentrating on the inverse of that 49%.   Hugs,   Charlize

Black Dog still digging in deep.

A good thought for finding peace of mind today is: "Focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot." This encourages you to prioritize your actions and thoughts within your sphere of influence, while releasing the need for control over external factors. This approach can lead to a more calm and less stressful day. 

A good thought for finding peace of mind today is: "Focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot." This encourages you to prioritize your actions and thoughts within your sphere of influence, while releasing the need for control over external factors. This approach can lead to a more calm and less stressful day. 

A good thought for finding peace of mind today is: "Focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot." This encourages you to prioritize your actions and thoughts within your sphere of influence, while releasing the need for control over external factors. This approach can lead to a more calm and less stressful day. 

A good thought for finding peace of mind today is: "Focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot." This encourages you to prioritize your actions and thoughts within your sphere of influence, while releasing the need for control over external factors. This approach can lead to a more calm and less stressful day. 

A good thought for finding peace of mind today is: "Focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot." This encourages you to prioritize your actions and thoughts within your sphere of influence, while releasing the need for control over external factors. This approach can lead to a more calm and less stressful day. 

Have you had to deal with the Black Dog? Does it keep coming bacK? How do you deal with it?

I've had the fantasy as well. Nice to dream but you can and will move forward at your pace. Keep yourself FRONT and CENTER. You can't love another until you love yourself and putting yourself first is necessary now. If you are finding attraction to men are you still wanting to keep your marriage if it is possible or are you also drifting in your attraction to your spouse. In my case I would love to have the opportunity to be loved by a man but I'm past the pain knowing it won't happen for me and keeping my marriage was important. Though you can't control another, I tried to keep doing things to show I cared and had compassion and eventually she understood and agreed a partnership was important to her. She doesn't want to be called wife anymore but spouse and that's okay, a compromise I'm willing to make. She is now an ally. For me that was the most important thing outside full transition and I was lucky. If your marriage is important to you keep being compassionate, but it is no guarantee. But keep remembering you come first - you've got to be faithful to who you are and make progress in finding your happiness. 

Lovely and sunny for a change, i was asked yesterday if i fancied a climb to the top of our cathedral that will give me plenty of exercise  its all steps at 331 feet tall. I did Melham Cov a few years back, a jurassic waterfall 260 feet tall. why take the cable car when you can walk to the top!! (visit to wales last year)

Funny, that is the number that elected him, and a couple decimal points away, the ones who voted for the other party.  Strange.

Even the article points out that the victim being Trans was bonus points and not the initial motive for the crime.  The severity of the action could well be the result of finding she was Trans, but they were out for any woman tending a store there.  I know the area quite well from "official business" before I retired from the State.  I also remember the area from my childhood when it was not the gang and hoodlum haven it became in the late 60's.